Self Realization

Before you even consider delving into this information(on this site or any other related to pick-up and/or dating)  you really should go over these four points. They will be crucial to your success in the way you learn and absorb this type of material.  I cannot stress enough how important these points are – instead of wasting time saying how important they are I’ll just give them to you here;

1) Make an important realization.
First, realize and accept the fact that if you are new to all this then you are probably an AFC (Average Frustrated Chump), a “nice guy”. A guy who has no pick-up skills and rarely manages to close the deal with a chick. You’re used to referring to getting laid as “getting lucky”. Also, you could be a guy who tends to supplicate in his behavior to women, especially good-looking women. Meaning, buying flowers for a woman when going out for coffee, putting her on a pedestal, and generally letting her walk all over you in the vain hope of somehow being seen as attractive enough in her eyes to want to sleep with you.

2) Realize you must change.
If whatever you’ve been doing your whole life has been failing you, STOP. Begin to understand that you must learn new skills, build a whole new attitude, and change your current belief system. You must put yourself in recovery mode, becoming a RAFC (Recovering AFC). The process does not happen overnight, it takes dedication, time, effort, and experimentation. It takes a devotion to wanting to improve your life, in a way that you can look back on this day as the start of achieving your ultimate goals. Remember that everyone can always learn something of benefit from this type of material even if they are the most accomplished in dating and social settings.

3) Practice in moderation and build skills gradually.
Don’t try to learn everything at once. Don’t try to absorb every bit of information and only then go out into the field expecting immediate results. Learn at least 1 new thing, get at least 1 new understanding and put THAT to use. Practice that new skill regularly. Then learn another new skill. Put that into use. Over time, you will begin to find things which work best for you, and be able to throw away stuff that doesn’t affect your success as much. You may even come to your own realizations and want to share your experience. How long does it take to learn all this stuff adequately? The answer is, does it really make a difference? You either want to fix your life or not. If it takes 6 months or 4 years, every day after that will be a much better life than you’re used to experiencing now. I won’t lie to you, there is no “quick fix” or “magic pill” but there are things you can start doing now (and things you can stop doing) which will provide you with more immediate improvement. Remember, you are basically re-programming yourself to overcome a lifetime of bad habits and useless advice from clueless people.

4) Determine what you want.
When you start going out in the field to pick up chicks, you may be tempted to just go out without any kind of requirements as to what you are looking for. Most guys will just say to themselves “If she looks hot and is willing to have sex with me, that’s good enough!” Not really. You still need to ask yourself whether you are looking for a one-time lay, a friend, a fuck buddy, a short-term relationship, or a long-term one. You also need to figure out what kind of qualities you want, what kind of personality traits you would enjoy, what kind you are willing to tolerate, and what kind of things you absolutely won’t tolerate in a chick. You also have to establish rules for yourself and stick by those rules. Once you have established that kind of base, you will more easily be able to filter out the kind of chicks that will be wasting your time, and focus on the ones you really want and can learn to be successful with.